You have accepted or thinking about accepting a job in Denmark, but you don’t know how to tell your partner?
Do you find yourself in a situation where thinking about living and working abroad really started to grow on you? And are you unsure how to involve your spouse in that decision?
We got you!
We have gathered some of the best ways to tell your spouse. Some are romantic and others are more humorous.
One thing is for sure. You have to tell your spouse. People always say „You will only regret what you didn’t do”. You cannot let this dream live inside you, without ever figuring out if how it would be. It’s like missing out on an adventure.
Sure – adventures are not always as fun as they sounded in the beginning. But you have to figure that out by experience. Maybe you will not like it after one year or five years. And then what do you do? The answer is super easy: You move back.
Don’t get us confused. Moving to a new country is tough, and we at Medicolink want to help with what we can to make it easier. We are all unsure sometimes about how to bring life-changing news to our loved ones, let that be professional or personal life-related. In this article, we have collected ideas on how to inform your partner about your wish to relocate to Denmark. Let’s dive right into it.
The Dinner Surprise
What is your spouse’s favorite meal? We are all in a better mood when we are served our favorite food.
Ask your partner out for a lovely dinner, maybe at your favorite restaurant, but it can be cooking at home too, the most important thing is the comfortable environment.
When you feel cozy enough to bring up the topic in question, tell your partner why you have organized this dinner.
Yes, you will be nervous! But we got you covered. Here is the best way to be prepared – also for all the questions your spouse might ask you.
These three things are important to mention:
- Tell them the reason behind why you want to move
Tell it with passion. How do you see yourself in Denmark? Google some pictures of Denmark and imagine yourself living close to the ocean or in the bigger cities. Get familiar with the term “Hygge”, which Danes love!
“Hygge” means to enjoy the time, often with food, beverages, other people, candles, and cozy feelings.
- Make it clear why you think that would be beneficial for your family
Is it the work/life balance that would be good for you, because you always talk about how you would love to spend more time together? Or is it the higher salary that will give you a higher form of financial freedom? Is it the daycare system or school systems that will be beneficial for your kids? Maybe the number of vacation days and maternity leave for when you will have (your next) children?
- Questions from your spouse
Imagine yourself in your partner’s situation if they would tell you they want to move somewhere else. Think about what you would want to know, and the questions you would have. This way, you can prepare answers for the doubts of your spouse.
- We don’t know the language!? (Medicolink offer language courses)
- What am I supposed to work within Denmark? (Medicolink offers assistance to find a job for the spouse. Depending on the spouse’s profession, there might already be a huge need for him/her in Denmark)
- What about kids? They can go to school, either international or local schools.
- Can we bring our dog? Yes of course!
- What about our house and all of our stuff? We will move the stuff to Denmark and sell the house. We will find a nice place (insert what fits: by the ocean, in the city, in the countryside, etc.) where we will live.
- What about our family and friends? We will both have 5 weeks of vacation a year. We will fly as often as possible, and our friends and families will be excited to visit us in Denmark.
What else could your partner ask? If you are not sure about the answer, feel free to e-mail us, and we will provide you with the answer within 24 hours!
The Preparation Maneuver
You don’t believe in the dinner plan, or you are afraid to be put on the spot? No problem – completely understandable. Here is another way to go about it:
Another way of doing it is preparing in advance for the big news. You could start talking about Denmark, show pictures, collect facts, something you know your spouse will like about the country. This could also easily be part of the dinner surprise plan. For more information and facts about Denmark, see this page. https://medicolink.com/denmark/
Now, this can go two ways. Your spouse will suggest maybe you could see yourself living there. Or you can „drop the bomb” that you want to move to Denmark, either using our advice about a dinner date before or just starting a conversation with your spouse. Be prepared that they will have questions that you should answer. Check the list above. Again don’t be shy to e-mail us if you know your spouse will ask a specific question you don’t know how to reply to. We will reply within 24 hours!
By discussing the questions that rose in your partner, you will also know better if – or more precisely – why you want to move to Denmark.
“The essence of pleasure is spontaneity.”
Germaine Greer
YOLO
This one is for the spontaneous ones. As Germaine Greer would say: „The essence of pleasure is spontaneity”.
YOLO means You Only Live Once. This phrase was used frequently some years ago, mostly by younger people. Although, it might sound a bit silly, there is really something about it.
You do literally only live once. And what is the worst thing that can happen? That you don’t like it? Fine, move back and continue the life you know and are comfortable with. Is this decision forever? No, it is totally up to you. Let’s say you enjoy it for five or ten years. After that, you can always change your mind. See it as an adventure. Who has ever regretted going on an adventure?
If you don’t give it a try, you will always wonder what it could have been. Knowing is always better than wondering.
Have your partner on board from the beginning
Probably the best solution, that as soon as you consider moving abroad, you should share it with your partner. Transparency and sharing your feelings are important in a relationship, so if you start thinking about life-changing decisions such as moving to a new country, sharing it with your partner benefits both of you.
This way you know from the beginning whether your partner is on board with moving to a new country. In the better case scenario, you have the support of your partner from early in the process, which is very motivating.
You are not alone
Everyone needs reassurance and support. It makes you more confident to proceed with what you have started.
If your partner is in doubt, tell them Medicolink will not only assist with all the administrative work but teach you, your spouse, and kids danish and assist with finding schools and a job for the spouse.
We hope this article gave you some ideas on how to tell your spouse or your loved ones that you want to move abroad. However, telling your partner you want to move to a new country is probably not the hardest part of the relocation.
Making the decision of leaving your home country and jumping into something completely strange might be scary. In our next article, we will talk about the pros and cons of moving to Denmark.
In the meantime, take a look at our open positions, and feel free to contact us for more information anytime at info@medicolink.com.